Parents love their sons and daughters regardless of their behavior. From the day they were born we were smitten. As we watched them grow up our love for them grew stronger and stronger. Then things began to change. They began to rebel and disobey. We caught them in lies. We had to discipline and enforce boundaries. Then the day came when, to our sadness, we found ourselves being the bad guy, the enemy, instead of their hero. Sigh.
Sometimes we don’t like the person they’ve become. Rude, selfish, disrespectful, and even hateful, alcohol and drugs have changed them. Depression, bipolar, schizophrenia, anxiety disorders and other mental illnesses changed them. Time in jail or prison changed them. Trauma changed them.
Before we know it they’re no longer the person we once knew. The sweet, innocent son or daughter we raised and had so many special wonderful memories with – where did they go? What happened to them? They’ve hurt us so many times. It’s baffling. Mystifying. It breaks out hearts.
They’re still our children. Underneath it all, they’re is still in there – somewhere.
What can make the difference in their lives? What is the key that can unlock the door to their hearts? Love. Unfailing, unconditional love. Ours and God’s.
No one deserves this. But it’s love that can make the difference. Love that never fails no matter what they’ve done. Love that can’t fail. It’s not possible for it to wear out, give out, or fizzle out. Impossible for it to come to an end – ever. It will never cease to exist. No way, no how!
This reminds me of the song, Great is Thy Faithfulness:
“The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; His mercies never come to an end;
they are new every morning, new every morning. Great is thy faithfulness, O Lord.
Great is thy faithfulness, O Lord. Great is thy faithfulness.”
The Bible talks a lot about this kind of love. These two verses say it well:
Lamentations 3:21-23 “Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope; because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassion never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.”
Psalm 119:76a “May your unfailing love be my comfort . . .”
Because God’s love never fails, there is always hope and comfort for anyone. Love is the key to their hearts.
Heavenly Father, put this kind of love in our hearts for our children when we don’t like who they’ve become. Thank you for how you love them passionately and perfectly. May this love be the key to lasting change. May it give them hope that they can have a new beginning and that life is worth living, worth fighting for.