Today’s blog is a re-post from February 2013.
Are you a weary parent? Are you drained? Depleted? Worn out from dealing with your child’s rebelliousness, alcohol and drug abuse, eating disorder, forms of self-injury like cutting and burning, pornography, mental illness, sexual identity issues and continuous arrests? If you’re like me, you lack something. Because of what’s missing, you keep saying “yes” when you really want to say “no” to your child’s requests for help – more money, more of this and more of that.
Why do we do this? Why do we keep denying our feelings? Why do we continue to give in when we really want to stand firm and say no? What happened to us? Where did our healthy boundaries go?
What do we lack? COURAGE. Been there. Done that. How about you? Continue Reading »
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Today’s blog is a visual one. It’s purpose is to refresh the hearts of parents with broken hearts. On my weak and weary days with my daughter who struggles with substance abuse, mental illness, self-harm and suicidal thoughts I was so distressed I couldn’t concentrate to read much or function at my normal capacity. My brain was jelly. I felt too distracted and depressed to focus. I could hardly think straight.
At those times I sought inspiration and refreshment through the senses. One of those was with beautiful photography. All I had to do was look at an inspiring picture and it would soothe my soul. Continue Reading »
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Today I’m going to do something different. I’m going to introduce you to several other bloggers. Each of them write for different reasons and has a unique style all their own. It’s called a blog hop. I don’t do much hopping these days, but ‘ll make an exception for this. The purpose is to introduce you to other writers you might enjoy.
For this Blog Hop, I will answer four questions about why I write, then each of these featured writers will do the same on their own blogs in the near future. Please take a few minutes to “hop” on over and check out their blogs. After I answer the four questions, I will introduce you to them. I think you’ll enjoy their writing.
Here are the four questions about “why I write”:
1. What am I writing or working on? For the past year my husband and I have been writing a Facilitator’s Manual for those who would like to start a Hope for Hurting Parents Support group. Continue Reading »
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My heart ached when I heard the news about the tragic crash of the Malaysian Airliner. As I thought about it and prayed for the families it occurred to me that there are many commonalities here with hurting parents whose children are abusing drugs or alcohol, have a mental illness, struggle with self-injury or an eating disorder, are in and out of jail or prison, or struggle with a same-sex attraction.
The crash was unexpected. None of the passengers or their loved ones saw this coming. No one imagined this would ever happen to them or their family.
The lives of the loved ones are changed forever. They will never be the same.
The loved ones couldn’t prevent this from happening. They had no control. There was nothing they could do to change things. Continue Reading »
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In today’s post I want to introduce you to a wonderful resource – certified Life and Recovery Coach, Cathy Taughinbaugh.
Her website is an incredible source of help. Her website is for parents who are concerned about their child’s alcohol or drug use. One of her goals is to help you find peace.
“You may be feeling overwhelmed by the chaos, confusion and fear of trying to deal with your child’s substance use. Know that life can change and things can get better.
You don’t have to struggle alone!
I’ve dedicated my work to helping parents transform the anxiety and uncertainty they feel into clarity and peace of mind through personal coaching.
I’m a parent who has been in your shoes and know from the inside how hard this may be for you.” Continue Reading »
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Today’s guest blogger is Nick Watts, a father whose son died by suicide a little over a year ago. With beautiful honesty and authenticity this dad shares what this past year has been like. Read his story to find out what restored him and where he found hope to go on. I believe you will find his writing uplifting and encouraging no matter who you are.
JORDAN’S BIRTHDAY IS THIS SATURDAY, JULY 12th
It took me eight months to come out of shock after the death of my son. I’ll never forget the morning this past January when I awoke noticing something was different psychologically. Powerfully different.
After a few minutes, I finally realized I had not woken up trying to undo my son’s death – which was a sort of psychological torture I had endured both consciously and subconsciously every minute of every day since he took his life the previous May. It was as though my mind finally exhaled.
I’ll never forget that moment. Truth was slowly having its way with my broken mind & heart. Continue Reading »
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*Welcome today’s guest blogger, Betsy Bradshaw. I believe you will find much encouragement and hope as she shares her story with honesty and openness. She’s learned some valuable lessons and even found joy on the journey.
This has not been an easy journey for me these past few years. Our older son was making poor choices where we were serving as missionaries overseas, so we returned to the U.S. a year early for our furlough, to get him some counseling. When he continued abusing substances, we thought we might need to take him to live in a homeless shelter when he turned eighteen.
My husband and I decided that if he hadn’t stopped his substance abuse by his birthday, we wouldn’t allow him to live at home anymore.
But God answered our prayers, and today he is doing much better. It hasn’t been easy, though. He’s been through two rehab programs and three counselors. Except for two small slips, he’s been clean for almost a year.
Has he come to the Lord? No, not yet. Continue Reading »
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