This is PART 2 of the journey of a former agnostic who was raised in a strong Christian home. TJ, now twenty-eight, shares how he shut God out and fell into the party scene. He told me his story to offer encouragement and fresh hope to brokenhearted parents. If God can transform his life, then He can transform your child’s life, too.

After a period of  hard-partying, downtown clubbing, bar-hopping, shameless liquor, girl-chasing, and unrestrained recreational party drugs, losing his girlfriend and who he thought were close friends, TJ’s story continues:

I realized how I’d destroyed everything wonderful in my life. And so, I cried out to God in my brokenness and agony—and, for the very first time Surrenderin my life, I heard Him answer. He picked me up out of the rubble of my self-destruction and from that moment on I promised to never lash out against Him again.

How could I keep pushing Him away after everything He revealed to me and the peace He gave me in the aftermath of what I’d done? And what was it specifically that I had done? Continue Reading »

Today I’m going to share with you Part 1 of the journey of a former agnostic, raised in a strong Christian home, whom God has transformed into a passionate follower of Christ. TJ agreed to share his story to give hurting parents hope for their son or daughter.

party sceneOnce upon a time, not that long ago, the deepest, most venomous anger, hatred, and bitterness were eating me alive from the inside out. Nearly a decade of rejecting God had finally caught up with me. The burdens of greed and selfishness were at long last caving in.

I was dying in my heart, and there was no one to blame but me. In that moment I faced one terrifying question: What on earth had I done?

On the outside, my image didn’t add up. Raised in a devout home, I went to a private Christian school, had two amazing parental examples, and was taught to memorize the Bible from a young age. But, by the time I got to high school I’d grown bored with everything that had to do with God and church.

Blah, blah – I knew the stories. Blah, blah – Christ died. Blah, blah – life with God is wonderful. Blah, blah, blah. I was tired of the same old, same old.

So one day, when I was about fifteen-years-old, Continue Reading »

SunsetAre you a parent, grandparent – or some other family member – who has been impacted by the suicide of someone you loved? I just finished a three-part series on suicide discussing the warning signs and a simple three-step strategy of suicide prevention, QPR, that is saving lives.

Today I thought I would share a few more resources I’ve found to help you cope and process your loss. Maybe you haven’t been personally affected by this national tragedy, but you want to understand it better and know how to help a friend. More than likely, some day, you will be impacted by this type of unspeakable loss. If you’ve found other resources you like, please comment and share them with us!


Grief Share Support Groups and Seminars – a 12 week, faith-based grief recovery group curriculum Continue Reading »

Do you have a son or daughter who has been suicidal? Were you paralyzed about what to do? Did you think nothing would help? I have good news

I can't. God can. I think I'll let him!

I can’t. God can. I think I’ll let him!

for you. There is something you can do that just might save their life. This post is the last in a series explaining a simple, easy-to-learn three-part process designed to help prevent death by suicide called QPR: Question, Persuade, Refer. It was developed by Dr. Paul Quinnett of the QPR Institue. You can read all about it on their website: qprinstitute.com

In this post I will explain the third step of QPR, Refer. Continue Reading »

Are you a parent who has been worried out of your mind that your son or daughter may be thinking about taking their life? Does it torment you that you don’t know for sure if they’re in danger?  Have you been baffled by what to do to keep your child safe – other than locking them in their room and keeping a 24/7 vigil over them? I’ve been there and I know it’s one of the worst feelings a parent could ever experience. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.Compressed for website use 092

This is part two of a series on suicide – the warning signs and the QPR method for Suicide Prevention that was developed by the QPR Institute: qprinstitute.com  This is the work of Dr. Paul Quinnett. Please read my last two blog posts to familiarize yourself with the warning signs, and the first step of this method of prevention, “Question”.

QPR is an acrostic for: Question, Persuade, Refer. In this post I will explain the Persuade step. You can read more about this life-saving technique on the QPR Institute’s website mentioned above. Continue Reading »

letting go with butterflyWhat do parents need to know about suicide? They need to know there’s something they could do that might make the difference if they suspect their son or daughter is thinking about taking their life. That’s good news! This is part one of a two part series outlining something called QPR = three simple steps (QPR steps) anyone can learn. They can actually help prevent a suicide.

What is the number one cause of suicidal behavior?

Untreated depression.

When discovered, depression is highly treatable. Complicating factors arise, however, when a person self- medicates (using alcohol – a depressant, or drugs).  As odd as it sounds, research shows that “once someone decides to end their life, the hours before death are often filled with a kind of chipperness, even blissful calm. This change in mood is a good time to apply QPR.”  Who needs to know this technique? Everyone – not just concerned parents. I encourage you to share this information with your friends. Let’s spread the word and save lives.

The three steps are:

Question – the person about suicide.

Persuade – the person to get help.

Refer – the person to the appropriate resource.

The first step of asking “the question” is the focus of today’s blog. Continue Reading »

Are you the mom or dad of a child who is struggling with suicidal ideation (thoughts and fantasies of taking their life). Do they struggle with bipolar, depression, PTSD, or schizophrenia?  Are you tormented not knowing if they’re safe or not – from themselves? Do you have an uneasy feeling that something is wrong but can’t put your finger on it? Do you worry they feel worthless and their life doesn’t matter?  If so, this is for you. This information in this blog could be crucial for you and your child.fragile

This material is from The National Suicide Prevention Hotline website. The following signs may mean someone is at risk for ending their life. The risk of suicide is greater if a behavior is new or has increased, or if it seems related to a painful event, loss, or change. If your child exhibits any of these signs, seek help as soon as possible by calling the Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). A trained individual will be there to take your call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, including holidays. Continue Reading »


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