When someone you love is diagnosed with a mental illness (major depression, bipolar, schizophrenia, PTSD, OCD) something very ugly tends to rear its head. I call it the two-headed monster of stigma and shame. It finds life from those who don’t understand because they’re either uninformed or misinformed. When it’s directed at your son or daughter the hurt runs deep. You feel protective. Defensive. But maybe you felt this way toward them yourself.
You need to hear these things:
- Don’t believe your child’s value in this world is diminished because of their mental illness. Continue Reading »
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Life is full of change, isn’t it? Not all change is bad, either. I wanted to let you know about what I think will be a good change.
In the next week or two my blog will be migrated into our Hope for Hurting Parents website. This way everything will be in one place. My blog will be the home page. We will also have a new look, so be sure to leave your comments! From that point on my blog will not be found at: hopeforhurtingparents.wordpress.com. Instead, it will be found at: hopeforhurtingparents.com
Speaking of change, I pray good changes will come in your child’s life soon. If not in theirs, then in yours, as you learn to cling to, lean on, depend on and trust in God. He’s got you in his hands.
“As a father shows compassion to his children, so the Lord shows compassion to those who fear him. (Psalm 103:13 ESV)”
Father, show compassion to hurting parents and their children as they endure painful changes and hope for good ones. Oh, how they need it today.
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Schizophrenia. Have you wondered if this could be what’s wrong with your son or daughter, or have they already been diagnosed? Maybe you weren’t surprised, but either way it was probably devastating. You may have been on this precarious path for a while. Some days you feel okay and other days you’re not.
A friend of mine, whose daughter struggles with schizophrenia, says she often feels way out of her comfort zone. Sometimes it feels like she’s living in a nightmare.
It’s a little like trying to cross a precarious rope bridge. You have no choice – you have to keep going, even though you’re scared to death. I hope the following information from NAMI (The National Alliance on Mental Illness – nami.org) will be helpful on your journey. Continue Reading »
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Your child has been diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder. You want to understand what this really means. What will their life look like now? Don’t despair. It’s still possible for them to have a fulfilling life. This is part two in a series on mental illness. My information is from The National Alliance on Mental Illness, nami.org Refer to my last blog (May 10th) for a further introduction to the topic of mental illness.
Bipolar Disorder is also known as manic depression. A mood disorder, it affects nearly 6 million adults in the U.S. Characterized by extreme shifts in mood, energy, and functioning, people experience alternating episodes of mania (severe highs), depression (severe lows), and mixed states which contain elements of both high and low experiences.
These episodes may last for days, weeks, or even months, and are often separated by periods of fairly normal moods. A chronic condition with recurring episodes, bipolar often begin in adolescence or early adulthood. If your child has been diagnosed, remember – it does NOT mean they’re sentenced to a life of misery. Good treatment is available from many professionals who are continually improving their understanding of this mental health issue. Continue Reading »
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Has your son or daughter has been diagnosed with a mental health issue? Major depression, obsessive compulsive, bipolar disorder and schizophrenia (among other disorders) are robbing millions of their quality of life. This is part one of a three part series highlighting information about the major mental illnesses, also called brain disorders.
My information is from The National Alliance on Mental Illness (nami.org) the major source of information, education, advocacy, and support for individuals and their families affected by this challenge.
Mental illnesses are not the result of personal weakness, lack of character, or poor upbringing. They are medical conditions that men, women, and sometimes even children, have no control over, like diabetes or cancer. These disorders diminish their ability to function and cope with the usual demands of life. The result is a huge ripple effect on family members and society in general. Compassion, understanding and support is needed.
In this addresses major depression. If you love someone who suffers from this, be encouraged. As the non-profit To Write Love on her Arms (twloha.com) says, “There is help and Hope is real”.
One of the best things you as a parent can do is to educate yourself as much as you can. It helped me. Continue Reading »
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It’s Mother’s Day. A wonderful day for some. A painful day for others. I wrote this special prayer for every brokenhearted mom. For every mom whose son or daughter is away from them, “out there”, lost to some kind of addiction (drugs, alcohol, pornography, sex, gambling, etc.); who can’t stop self-injuring, can’t overcome their eating disorder, refuses treatment for a mental health issue, in denial of their need for help; who has rejected their faith and values, chosen another life-style. There’s nothing quite so painful, is there?
Hurting mom, this prayer is for you:
Heavenly Father, on this day of celebrating mothers, please surround every hurting mom who reads these words with a comforting, warm embrace. Hold them close to Your nurturing heart.
Console them with Your divine “mother-love”. Reassure them You are near. Ease their pain. Lessen the ache in their soul.
Creator of motherhood – this desire to procreate, care for, nurture, and love unconditionally – is from You. You’re the One who gave this capacity to sacrifice for another human being, no matter how we’re treated in return. Continue Reading »
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Is Mother’s Day going to be difficult for you this year? If so, then this is for you.
It’s not a day many moms look forward to. It only brings pain. Sadness. Heartache. When your relationship is strained or non-existent you’d rather skip it. You know you probably won’t hear from them, much less get a card.
You won’t see their smiling face greet you with affection, hand-made cards or thoughtful gifts. They’re too self-focused and oblivious for such loving gestures. They may not even know it’s Mother’s Day. They’re clueless.
Where does that leave you? Set up for a lot of hurt and pain, anger and resentment. Continue Reading »
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