This is Part 1 of a blog written by Kathy Taughinbaugh, a coach for parents of addicts. These are some amazing quotes, so let’s begin.
“My recovery from addiction to my addict began much earlier than my son’s recovery from addiction to drugs. My hope for everyone is that no matter what chaos is in your lives at the moment, you are able to control what goes on within you and have some peace. I read somewhere that there will always be sadness, but misery is a choice.” ~ Denise Krochta, author of Sweat
“It just takes one to stop the dance, to change the steps and start a new dance. But if both change and learn the new steps and practice those steps, together, a new dance is created. Continue Reading »
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If you are the parent of an addict, you must read this. It was written by my daughter, Renee, about four years ago. It’s powerful and sobering. She’s in recovery from alcohol and drug addiction, self-injury, struggles with mental health issues, has been the victim of rape, and is a suicide survivor. There were many times I didn’t think either one of us would survive. Wherever you are in the journey with your son or daughter, don’t give up. Hold on to hope – STAY.
“I was on my way home from the beach today when I received a text from a friend informing me that they had relapsed on heroin. They were coming off a two-week bender. My heart seemed to stutter, as if it started to cry before I could. A tennis ball lodged itself in my throat and I struggled to swallow. Then anger rose up inside of me from the depths, doing it’s job, protecting me from the pain. (It’s easier to be angry than to be hurt.) I sat in the back seat of the car the last thirty minutes of the trip home, shaking my head in silence and fighting tears, when the anger subsided. Continue Reading »
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Does your son or daughter have a sexual addiction? Do they go from one promiscuous relationship (with the same-sex or the opposite sex) to another? Are they irresistibly drawn to pornography in various forms? Have these behaviors become a pattern? If so, you need to know about Bethesda Workshops in Nashville, Tennessee.
Their mission is to provide a place for healing for those damaged by pornography and other forms of sexual addiction; and to provide training for professionals who work with sex addicts and their loved ones. They offer clinical intensive workshops with the best strategies based on grace-based Christian principles.
What sets them apart? Continue Reading »
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I’m a hurting parent. If you’re reading this, you probably are, too. My daughter has struggled with addictions, mental illness, self-injury and more for over ten years. It’s been a rough road full of ups and downs. There were many times I didn’t think she would make it – or myself, for that matter. She survived and I did, too. Although I have a lot more gray hair and not a few wrinkles. My marriage even made it.
How? It wasn’t easy. There were things that contributed to my survival. I found help in many places and people. One of them was God. Continue Reading »
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Anger. A strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure or irritation; frustration or exasperation toward someone or something you have no control over. Gee, that definition describes what we often feel as parents of rebellious children, doesn’t it? We have no control over our adult children (teens can be very difficult, too – any age can).
You know what it feels like. It wells up within you. Some of us are more comfortable expressing our anger than others. I’m one of the ‘others’ Continue Reading »
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The To Write Love on Her Arms movie has been out a little over a week now. Today’s post is the second in a two-part series answering commonly asked questions about Renee, us, David, and the movie. You can rent or purchase it from RedBox, Netflix (as of March 13th), itunes, Amazon, twloha.com, or Walmart online. It deals with sensitive subjects: Addiction, mental illness, self-injury, suicide, and sexual trauma. For individuals who struggle with self-injury, counselors recommend they watch it with a supportive community and have opportunities to talk about it afterward so that it won’t trigger them. Go to my blog from March 8th for part 1.
Were there any other hobbies Renee had that helped her cope with the inner pain?
Yes. Sports. She was always an athlete from the time she first started playing soccer at age 5. She and her siblings all loved soccer. She played on her school’s team all the way through high school and it was a great outlet for her emotions. In middle school she played on each team they offered (soccer, volleyball, basketball and track) and won the coveted all-sports award in eighth grade, a feat not many could attain (although I like to brag that her sister, April, accomplished the same thing that year as a sixth grader!). And her dad and I never missed a game unless we were sick.
How is your relationship with Renee today? Continue Reading »
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The To Write Love on Her Arms movie has been out almost a week now. It’s surreal for my husband and me to see our daughter and our lives in a movie. We’ve heard from friends all over the country who’ve watched it and even a few who saw it on international flights.
The comments have been overwhelmingly positive. It’s been a long time coming. The movie was filmed four years ago. One of the producers, a lead character in the story, David, died two years ago. The movie exists because of his strong belief that the story needed to be made into a motion picture to impact still more people with its message of hope.
We thank God for you and your ability to dream big, David!
I’ve been asked a lot of questions about the movie. You can rent or purchase it from RedBox, Netflix, itunes, Amazon, twloha.com, or Walmart online. It’s rated PG-13 for language and content. It deals with sensitive subjects: Addiction, mental illness, self-injury, and sexual trauma. For individuals who struggle with self-injury, counselors recommend they watch it with a supportive community and have opportunities to talk about it afterward so that it won’t trigger them.
I’m addressing a few questions today and then several more in my next post this coming Wednesday, March 11th.
When did I first realize Renee struggled with self-injury? Continue Reading »
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