Sometimes I feel so defeated. Helplessness overwhelms me. I get stuck only seeing how far there still is to climb and forget how far we’ve come. Addictions, mental illness, self-mutilation, sexual identity/behavioral issues (including pornography and promiscuity), gambling and eating disorders are vicious enemies. They may be sapping the life out of your child and crushing you as you watch your child drift away from you.
“Give us aid against the enemy (fear, worry, doubt, unbelief, expectations, self-effort, hopelessness, despair, depression) for the help of man is worthless. WITH GOD we will gain the victory and HE will trample down our enemies.” (Psalms 108:12 – 13) I am always so encouraged when I read this Bible verse. When I begin to wonder if it really is possible for us broken-hearted moms and dads – grandparents, too – to find victory this encourages me. New hope is found. It is like a breath of fresh air. I gasp for it. Take it deeply into my spiritual lungs.
What does this victory look like for us? Will it mean all of our child’s problems are solved? Perfect peace? A lack of trouble or conflict? Everything working out the way we want and hope for? Our dreams coming true? Our child fixed and in recovery; physically, emotionally and spiritually healthy? Oh how absolutely wonderful this would be. Brace yourself. Victory does not look like this for us.
What in the world am I saying? Have I lost my mind? I propose that we can have victory in the midst of our problems. In our troubles. In our storms. In the dark, even if things don’t work out. Even if our prayers are not answered. Even if our child is never “fixed”.
Our victory is with God. It’s in God. In Jesus Christ. Through faith in him. Trusting in his ability to help. There’s an old hymn that talks about our victory being in Jesus. And another one speaks of faith being the victory that overcomes the world. The dictionary defines victory as an act of winning or state of having won a battle or any kind of struggle. Wow. That’s it, isn’t it? We are in a very real battle and a struggle for our own sanity. We desperately need to win for the sake of our own well-being!
My victory in my struggle has been found in accessing God’s power, strength and ability to replace my weakness, and inability.
Victory is how God shows up in my trials and enables me to walk through them with faith and trust.
Here are a few more Bible verses I like on this subject:
Psalm 44: 5-8 “Through you we push back our enemies, through your name we trample our foes. I do not trust in my bow, my sword does not bring me victory; but You give us victory . . . in God we will make our boast all day long.”
I Corinthians 15:54, 57 ” . . . death has been swallowed up in victory . . . but thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.”
I John 5:5 “This is the victory that has overcome the world (all our enemies) . . . our faith.”