I’ve been thinking about this blog since before Easter. Sometimes the things you go through with your children bring you to a place of such pain and brokenness that it feels as though they have died. Drugs, alcohol, mental illness, self-injury, eating disorders, sexual issues, pornography, gambling, prison sentences, unexpected pregnancies – so much heartache, so much loss. It causes you to grieve deeply. It crushes you and rips your heart open like it must have felt for Jesus’ mother and his faithful followers when he died. They were there. They witnessed his brutal death first hand.
It appeared to be the end. His life was over. All hope was gone. They’d seen him die – life blood drained out; side pierced; last breath expelled. His life was crushed. Ruined. His last words were, “It is finished.” It looked like his enemies won. Total defeat.
Today, over two thousand years, later we have the advantage of knowing the rest of the story. We have the Bible in many versions and numerous movies (The Passion, The Jesus Film, Jesus of Nazareth) and even a recent TV mini-series, The Bible, that both tell us and show us about Christ’s crucifixion and resurrection. You may know it well.
So what is Easter’s message to parents in pain? These are some of my thoughts.
Even though your child’s life appears to be over, ruined and finished – it isn’t. It’s not over yet, no matter how bad things may look today. It’s not over until God says it’s over.
There’s always hope for everyone – even if things look hopeless. If they’re still breathing, then there’s still hope.
New life can rise up from the ashes of ruin. In Christ ALL things can be made new. That includes our son’s and daughter’s lives.
Because Christ lives, anyone who has lost their way, who turns to him for help, can find forgiveness and a life full of purpose and meaning.
God is the god of second, third, fourth and fifth chances – of new beginnings and fresh starts. It’s never too late for anyone to begin again.
If God can raise Jesus from the dead, then he can revive, restore and renew the life of those who turn to him for help.
If there was hope for the thief who was crucified beside Jesus, then there is hope for your child. Jesus told him,”Today you will be with me in Paradise.” (Luke 23:43) May your child turn to him today and receive the same promise.
Father, thank you for Easter’s truths and how those truths can change our children’s lives. They sound too good to be true, yet we know you cannot lie. Help us believe these things are possible. We thank you with all our hearts and wait with hope that one day we will see their fulfillment for our loved one.
In the name of Jesus who died and lives again. Amen.