Sunday is Father’s Day. Are you a dad whose heart is broken and burdened, full of pain and worry, fear and rejection? Father’s Day is one of those difficult days when memories of the time your children were small flood your mind. Emotions tend to be stronger. You wish you could skip the day. Everyone seems to be planning time with their children – except you. Maybe your other children are present – but not “that one”.
Your neighborhood may be full of family activities. Your friends and relatives may be asking what you will be doing. Or at work the next day they’ll be asking how your Father’s Day was – which means you’re supposed to brag on how loving and thoughtful your children were, showing you how much they love you.
Not! Maybe you just wish you knew where they were or if they’re even alive. It’s a terrible place to be.
I remember. If we didn’t hear from our daughter (or maybe not until the end of the day) I would feel so bad for my husband. He tried not to show it, but I knew he was in pain. It hurt me, too.
It’s so hard. You want to crawl in a hole and make it all go away. The day only reminds you what you don’t have anymore . . . it makes you long for when your child was younger and they actually wanted to be with you. You were their hero. What happened?
Friends with negative influences happened.
Same Sex attraction happened.
Anger and resentment happened.
Nothing’s the same.
This message for every hurting dad out there who feels their pain compounded on Father’s Day. I hope your son or daughter will at least call you and say Happy Father’s Day, even if they aren’t ready to say,”I Love You” . . . but if not, remember, this is just one chapter in their lives. It’s not the whole story. It’s very possible that one day they’ll come around and appreciate you again. They may even say, “I love you. Please forgive me. I’m sorry I was such a jerk”.
But that may not be today. The wait may be long. You may wonder when it will ever end, but don’t despair. Like my friend says, “As long as they’re still breathing, there is still hope!”
Keep believing. Keep trusting God. Give thanks for what you do have to be grateful for. Limit the amount of time you allow yourself to fret and obsess over them. Get busy helping someone else.
I really like this bible verse. It gives a lot of hope:
“This land that was laid waste has become like the garden of Eden. (Ezekiel 36:35)”
A great book that gives hope in life’s severe trials is Holding on to Hope by Nancy Guthrie.
Heavenly Father, please comfort every hurting, disillusioned dad who reads this today. Remind them that you see their pain, you understand and you care. Renew their hope that a better day may be in the future. But if not, help them keep trusting and keep their eyes on you. The only one who truly “gets it”. Amen.