How can parents whose children are hurting and in bondage from drug or alcohol abuse, self-injury of all kinds (eating disorders, cutting, burning), pornography, same-sex attraction issues, gambling , suicide attempts, and mental illness find freedom?
What do these parents need to be free from?
They need to be free from every destructive emotion associated with their child that’s destroying their well-being, robbing them of their sanity: Fear, anxiety, worry, guilt, shame, despair, depression, anger, resentment, grief and more.
Personally, finding my freedom didn’t come from doing more, lecturing more, helping more, reading more (books or the Bible – although reading did help and I do this all the time), or trying to fix my daughter more.
It wasn’t from worrying more, yelling more, crying more, or talking to a counselor more. Although talking to a counselor did help and I did need to express my feelings as part of my grieving journey, but without the yelling or lecturing.
My freedom came from something else.
It came from yielding more.
Giving her back to God more.
Trusting Him more.
Releasing her into his caring, loving hands more.
I had to remember that while I loved her immensely, He loved her even more. Much more. After all, He’s the one who made her and gave her life. I was part of the process, but He’s the Divine life-source.
When I say yield and surrender I don’t mean give up or not care. I mean let go and let God work. I step back and let Him step in. I stop enabling or helping. I focus on taking care of myself and let my daughter learn to do the same for herself.
Here is a powerful prayer called “Declaration of Release.” It’s written by Sylvia Gunter with The Father’s Business. I urge you to use it as your own prayer to help you let go and give your child back to God. Use it as often as you need. It helped me find freedom. I believe it will help you, too. Let it be your Freedom Song.
Because Jesus Christ is my Lord, I free you from my anxiety, fears, and control. I trust the Holy Spirit to lead you and show you the way that is right for you — the way of love, joy, and peace and all that salvation includes.
I place you at God’s throne of grace. I cannot force my will on you. I cannot live your life for you. I give you to God the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. You are a very special person. As much as I love you, God loves you more. Your life today is totally in His hands, and I trust Him with it.
In Jesus’ name…
I release you from my expectations,
I place you on open palms to the Lord,
I give you my blessings,
I let you go. Amen.
“It is God who works in you to will and to act according to His good purpose. Being confident of this, that He who began a good work in you will carry it to completion until the day of Christ Jesus (Philippians 2:13, 1:6).”
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