I remember when I felt very discouraged and depressed about my daughter. At nineteen-years-old she was addicted to alcohol and drugs, had a brain disorder (mental illness) and a serious problem with cutting. The strain of her destructive choices and behaviors was getting to me. I felt like I was stuck in a drought, languishing in a heat wave with no end in sight.
Is the heat chipping away at your confidence and trust, causing you to give in to worry and fear for your son or daughter? Do you wonder if they’ll ever be okay? Will you ever have a normal life or a loving relationship with them? Have you lost count how many times they’ve been arrested, gone to rehab or relapsed? Have you forgotten how many times they’ve been hospitalized or in the psych ward?
There have been so many arguments. So much chaos. So much despair. Their lives appear to be drying up and fading away.
It may feel like yours is, too.
At my low point I remembered this Bible verse:
“… blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him.
He will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream.
It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit (Jeremiah 17:7-8).”
How desperately we want to be like this healthy tree. Flourishing, even in drought conditions.
Not Drying up.
Not fading away.
Always full of life.
Imagine it. Breaking nature’s rules. Fruitful with no rain. Impossible in the natural realm.
So, how is it possible? What’s the secret?
The tree in question did what healthy plants do. It sent out roots to find a water source. Spiritually, the stream and water represent God and the life He offers. Have you found this source of life-giving water?
On my own I didn’t think I could survive the pain and heartache my ‘daughter-drought’ caused. I wilt in the heat. My spirit dries up and fades away. I give in to fear and worry. I lose confidence. I can’t trust. But because I’ve planted myself by God’s water-source, I’ve come to flourish in spite of the circumstances.
So can you. No matter how hot it gets.
Worry Defeater, on our own we cannot endure the drought we’re in with our child, much less flourish in it. Show us how to plant ourselves by Your life-giving water. Help us send out roots by Your stream. Instead of being full of worry and fear, we choose to confidently trust You, now and forever.
In Your life-giving name. Amen.
**If you’re struggling with depression to the point of being dysfunctional – adversely affected in any major area of your life (work, health, sleep, relationships), then you may want to consider seeing a counselor as soon as possible, before it gets worse. Getting help sooner is better than later.
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