Have you ever found yourself in a place where you didn’t know your way around? You had no map to help you get your bearings or direct you to where you needed to go. You were lost. And on top of that you were alone. There was no one to ask for help. Or maybe you were in a foreign country and everyone spoke another language. So they couldn’t help you.
It’s frightening and unsettling. This describes how I felt when I first learned my daughter had a serious problem with alcohol and drugs. Lost and disoriented I had no clue where to find help. At the time no one I knew had faced this with any of their children.
I’ve been on this path for a little over ten years now. It hasn’t been easy to find resources and learn about this strange, foreign world I found myself in the middle of. Today I’m going to share with you a few of my favorite books for parents of addicts. Each one has helped me regain my bearings.
Addict in the Family by Beverly Conyers. Stories of loss, hope, and recovery for anyone who loves someone who struggles with an addiction of any kind.
Hope and Help for the Addicted by Jeff VanVonderen. He provides answers to the myriad questions facing those with addictions and those looking to help them. This powerful resource will help you see you through your darkest times. This book gave me new insights and increased understanding. Van Vonderen is one of the counselors who was on the cable TV show, Intervention.
Moments of Clarity: Voices From the Front Lines of Addiction and Recovery by Christopher Lawford. Written by a former addict, it really helped me understand how an addict thinks. Full of personal stories, it shows how each one came to their “moment of clarity” when they finally realized they didn’t want to live like that any more. He also shares what recovery looked like for them – many are celebrities. It’s not a Christian book so there is some profanity, but I thought it was worth reading. This one is available from your local library.
If you’re feeling discouraged and hopeless you need to read one of these books. Never give up. Hold on to hope and remember these words from the Bible:
God can set you (and your child) free when you cry out to Him. The situation may not change, but you will be okay because you are not alone.
Keep trusting in this:
“. . . the Lord is faithful to all his promises and loving to all he has made (Psalm 145:12b).”