Sometimes parents don’t like the person their child has become when they’ve been rude, disrespectful and even downright hateful towards them. Suddenly we’re the bad guy, the enemy.
Alcohol and drugs changed them.
Depression, bipolar, schizophrenia, anxiety disorders and other mental illnesses changed them.
Time in jail or prison changed them.
Trauma changed them.
So much they’ve experienced has changed them.
Before we know it they’re no longer the person we once knew. The sweet, innocent, son or daughter we raised and have so many special memories of . . . where did they go? What happened? It’s baffling. Mystifying. It hurts. Bad.
But they’re still our child. Underneath it all is a frightened, lost soul. Our precious son or daughter is still there – somewhere.
What can make the difference in their lives?
God’s unfailing love.
None of us deserves it, yet His love for us never fails, no matter what we’ve done. Think about that for a minute. It’s unfailing. It can’t fail! It can’t wear out, give out or fizzle out. It’s impossible – absolutely not possible – “no way, no how!” – for it to stop or come to an end . . . ever! It will never cease to exist. The Bible tells us that nothing can separate us from God’s love.
NOT A THING.
I found it a great comfort to think of how much God loved my daughter, no matter what she did or what was done to her. Somehow it gave me hope that if He loved her that much, then one day she just might be okay. I could put her in His hands and entrust her into His care because of this love. I could depend on it. It was a sure thing. It didn’t guarantee she would be okay, but I could trust that out of His love He would do whatever it would take to reach her with His endless, immutable love. He’s faithful and He could do it.
As I thought about this I remembered a song:
The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;
His mercies never come to an end;
they are new every morning, new every morning.
Great is thy faithfulness, O Lord.
Great is thy faithfulness, O Lord. Great is thy faithfulness.
The Bible sums it up quite well in Lamentations 3:21-23,
“Yet this I call to mind and therefore I have hope; because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.”
And also in Psalm 119:76a, “May your unfailing love be my comfort . . .”
Because God’s love never fails, there is always hope for all of us. As a dear friend of mine says, LNF!