Has your son or daughter has been diagnosed with a mental health issue? Major depression, obsessive compulsive, bipolar disorder and schizophrenia (among other disorders) are robbing millions of their quality of life. This is part one of a three part series highlighting information about the major mental illnesses, also called brain disorders.
My information is from The National Alliance on Mental Illness (nami.org) the major source of information, education, advocacy, and support for individuals and their families affected by this challenge.
Mental illnesses are not the result of personal weakness, lack of character, or poor upbringing. They are medical conditions that men, women, and sometimes even children, have no control over, like diabetes or cancer. These disorders diminish their ability to function and cope with the usual demands of life. The result is a huge ripple effect on family members and society in general. Compassion, understanding and support is needed.
In this addresses major depression. If you love someone who suffers from this, be encouraged. As the non-profit To Write Love on her Arms (twloha.com) says, “There is help and Hope is real”.
One of the best things you as a parent can do is to educate yourself as much as you can. It helped me.
Major depression is a serious medical illness that is much more than temporarily feeling sad or blue. Estimated to affect fifteen million American adults in various age groups, ethnicity, religious affiliation, and socioeconomic groups – one out of every five individuals. Depression knows no boundaries. It’s the leading cause of disability. If someone experiences an episode of depression, they’re more likely to have another one sometime in their lives.
– A chemical imbalance in the brain; low amounts of serotonin; genetic factors – can be hereditary; life events – loss of a loved one; physical illness; financial or relationship problems, or chronic stress.
Symptoms to look for:
– Changes in sleep: Insomnia or sleeping too much.
– Changes in appetite: Decreased or increased.
– Impaired concentration and decision making: Trouble focusing and making decision.
– Loss of energy: Unable to do usual daily activities. Slowed responses.
– Low self-esteem: Negative thoughts of losses or failures and guilt.
– Feelings of hopelessness: Belief that nothing will ever improve. Thoughts of suicide.
If a person has three or more of these symptoms, lasting more than four weeks, then they may be suffering from major depression. Do you see these in your child or in yourself? If so, seek help right away from your doctor. If they confirm your suspicions, they may refer you to a psychiatrist for an evaluation, because your medical doctor is not trained in the medications used to treat mental illnesses, other than possibly prescribing a mild anti-depressant.
The sooner you seek help the better. The longer you wait the harder depression is to treat, lengthening the time for your body to respond. It can take a while to get your “brain soup” (a phrase some psychiatrists use) back where it needs to be.
Treatment: Medication combined with counseling. A therapist friend of mine insists that this is the best approach. Not just one to the exclusion of the other. Medication helps regulate mood so that deeper issues can be addressed, and feelings can be processed. Peer support groups and education are also considered helpful.
Recovery: Most people return to feeling “normal” (I’m not sure what that really is!) and activities in weeks or months. Several different medications may need to be tried to find the best one in the right amount. Success depends on the type of depression, its severity and length of duration.
Remember, you don’t need to feel ashamed or embarrassed. You’re in good company. Don’t isolate, depriving yourself of the help and support that’s available. You may be very surprised how well your friends and family respond to your honesty.
Hope is real. You’re Not Alone!
I hope this Bible verse encourages you:
“Surely God is my help; the Lord is the one who sustains me.” (Psalm 54:4)