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This is part 2 from Sunday, March 29th’s blog post. This is the second installment of a collection of quotes to help parents whose children struggle with an addiction from Kathy Taughinbaugh. (Found at kathytaughinbaugh.com)
Glean from the wisdom of others and see if something here will help you on your journey from pain to peace.
“If there is one overriding “fact” in the world of behavior change, it is that people who record important information about their lives are the people most likely to succeed in making important changes in their lives.” ~ Robert Meyers, Ph.D., author of Get Your Loved One Sober
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This is Part 1 of a blog written by Kathy Taughinbaugh, a coach for parents of addicts. These are some amazing quotes, so let’s begin.
“My recovery from addiction to my addict began much earlier than my son’s recovery from addiction to drugs. My hope for everyone is that no matter what chaos is in your lives at the moment, you are able to control what goes on within you and have some peace. I read somewhere that there will always be sadness, but misery is a choice.” ~ Denise Krochta, author of Sweat
“It just takes one to stop the dance, to change the steps and start a new dance. But if both change and learn the new steps and practice those steps, together, a new dance is created. (more…)
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Resilience. The ability to recover or adjust quickly after setbacks or difficulties. To bounce back after going through a tragedy or setback. Bouyancy.
Do you feel stretched?
This is a character quality that I need. As brokenhearted parents we all need this. We have been through so many difficulties and setbacks. When our children our abusing alcohol or drugs; when they are cutting or burning themselves; starving themselves; binging and purging; when they are sexually promiscuous, confused about their sexual orientation; when they have a mental illness and are refusing treatment; when they have attempted suicide or are threatening to do so . . . . How well do you find yourself recovering? Are you bouyant or are you sinking?
Resilient is also defined as: “The property of a material that enables it to resume its original shape or position after being bent, stretched, or compressed; elasticity”. I sure feel like I’ve been bent and compressed. Crushed. Definitely “stretched” like a rubberband. However, I have become alot more elastic and bouyant than I used to be. Much more than I was before I went through these years of bending and stretching.
Life-shaking. Traumatizing. Bone-wearying. Draining. I lost my zest for life. Have you? At one point I even despaired of life itself. I actually wished my life would end (or that my child’s would – as horrible as it is to admit that). What I was going through was so horrific it actually felt like it would have been easier. It would have ended the pain.
How can you rebound and snap back to who you once were? Is it really possible?
For me it is only through my faith in a loving God that I have been able to bounce back and recover. It has been a long, slow process. Many have helped me along the way. Friends, pastors, counselors, rehab center staff, support groups — all have played a part. Reading. Resting. Being easy on myself. Simplifying my life. Giving myself permission to feel my feelings. Accepting that I am not perfect. Accepting the issues that my child faces, then learning as much as I can about them. Taking One Day at a Time. Releasing my need for control. Letting go of a desired outcome yet holding on to hope. Giving thanks, even in the worst of times.
Resilience. It’s a good goal to aim for. We can do it! We can recover and bounce back!
This Bible verse has greatly encouraged me as I have worked on my recovery:
“Now he (God) is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us.” (Ephesians 3:20)
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